Why Do Bad Things Happen To Me???
If I had a dollar for every time someone asked “Why do bad things happen to me.” Or if I asked the same question to God when I was going through a fiery trail, facing a disappointing diagnosis, or possibly a death in the family, I’d be a rich lady.
But since I’m not wealthy and at times I still get asked that question or ask it myself, now it seems like God is showing me more and more and explaining his ways, which are much different than mine.
It seems our world is full of sickness, war, accidents, tragedies, and natural disasters and they fall on the just and the unjust, the Christian and the non-Christian. Yet if God is so good and all-powerful, why doesn’t he just wipe out evil in this world?
To answer this question we need to go back to the beginning….of the Bible…”In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth….” and he saw it was all good. He then formed man from the dust of the ground, and breathed the breath of life and he became a living soul. God placed Adam in the garden and gave him full reign of the Garden of Eden and he could eat of everything except the tree of good and evil. I want you to notice that Eve hadn’t been created yet when Adam was warned not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (Genesis 2:17).
Then God decided to make a mate for Adam and he created Eve from one of Adam’s ribs. When Adam saw her he said …..”she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Genesis 2:23. Surprisingly to me I don’t see where God nor Adam warned Eve about the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, especially in chapter three.
Eve’s out shopping in the garden and the serpent, with his cunning ways and slick tongue caught up with Eve in the produce aisle and “he said to the woman, Has God said, You shall not eat of every tree of the garden?” And she replied “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.” (Genesis 3:1-3)
I can see that old serpent slithering around the tree branches and showing Eve that he wasn’t dead from touching it and he smiled his serpentine smile and a little hiss he said, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” (Genesis 3:4-5)
So of course Eve considered the fruit and saw it was good for food, pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband (who was standing there with her the whole time and not saying a word!) and he ate….now I think most of us know the rest of the story and the punishment that followed. From the moment they gave in to temptation and ate of the fruit, sin and evil entered into the world. EVERYTHING changed and nothing was ever going to be the same again. Not even man’s relationship with God.
Murder, jealousy, and hatred are the first evil emotions that we find in the lineage of Adam and Eve, when Cain killed his brother Abel, and then lying when God asked Cain where was his brother. Of course this poor family went from the top of the world to the bottom with one bite of forbidden fruit and now one son was dead, killed by the hand of the other brother, who God curses and he became a vagabond.
I wish I could say that was the worse part of this journey but unfortunately in chapter 6 and verses 5-7, we read that the Lord saw the wickedness of Man was great in the earth and every thought was on evil continually and the Lord was sorry that he had made man on the earth and his heart was grieved.
I could go on and tell you about Noah and how he found favor with God and how the earth was so evil that God destroyed it all with a great flood. You see, my friends, God is all powerful and he hates evil and like in the days of Noah, he could wipe out evil but there would be nothing left of our world. God originally created a perfect world and he also gave man the freedom to make a choice to obey or disobey. When Adam and Eve sinned, death and suffering entered the world and became a part of life (Romans 5:12), we were born in sin and shaped in iniquity. Therefore we all face the fact of evil and wickedness in our life and the only solution, is God’s solution which is Jesus Christ.
How does Jesus become the solution to evil and wickedness? The moment we surrender our life to him, we enter into God’s Master Plan. You may not know what the future holds for you, but you know who holds the future. God has promised in Romans 8:28, that all things work together for good to them that love God. You notice this verse says ALL THINGS, not just the good but the bad also. Psalm 119:91 says that everything serves God’s plan.
Quite a few years ago I felt God leading me to do a three day fast, abstaining from food and only his word would be my bread of life, so being the pastor’s wife, I locked myself inside the church with my journal, bibles, and a pillow and blanket. I was determined to see this fast through and see the salvation of the Lord.
At the end of the three days, I was weak but feeling victorious that God had heard my prayers and he saw my sacrifice and I just knew He was going to answers my prayers! I had prayed for the church to grow with new people and for our financial needs at the church. We desperately needed a new roof for the church and had been saving up each week but still had a long way to go before we had that $10,000 for the new roof. Oh was I ever excited to see how God was going to handle this!
Within one month of that three day fast my entire world was turned upside down. I felt myself spinning like a top and couldn’t stop. First we had a church split and lost half our congregation. I was speechless…..hadn’t I just sacrificed for a new growth and what about the new roof? Second, trying to move on from a church split is very hard….almost impossible when your pastor husband was seeking revenge…not good at all. Third, well my life completely changed when I came home from registering our son in college to an empty house, empty bank accounts and an empty pulpit. Oh yeah I did have a short Dear Jane letter…. how he found someone else and I was yesterday’s news. Which was not very comforting…..
I can tell you one thing I was beyond upset. I was crushed. I was heart broken. I wanted to run over him with my car!! I blamed everybody. God, church, him, her, and did I say God? I was left with no money, unemployed, worn out and discarded like an old dirty sock. I had 30 days to move off church property and I had no idea where to go or what to do. I do remember crying a lot.
Then one morning I got up and put my big girl panties on and got to work. I went to my parents house in St. Louis and talked with my dad. He loaned me the money to get on my feet and move my mobile home to a park and it seemed I had devised a plan of sorts. Get moved and get a job. I sent out resumes and went on interviews. Packed and found a mover. I was hired by a CPA firm and got moved and I made enough money to support myself. I thought God was so good?!.
That was the first time I even thought about God but even through this bad time he was there with me. Now I was still hurt and cried everyday for what was lost. But I didn’t want my husband back. I loved my new job and I was back by my family again and I was on my own for the first time in my life. I think I started to feel happy. I filed for divorce, went back to college and became a tax accountant and supervisor. I worked at that office for 16 years until I retired and I’ve met a wonderful man that I’ve been dating for quite a few years now. I have a great church I attend that is not legalistic and my life is sure different now.
Remember that three day fast I did? Was it all for naught? My prayers were not answered the way I wanted them to be but none of the circumstances were what I thought they were either. Can you imagine God trying to stop my husband from cheating on me, or keeping the church from splitting? When none of those situations would have worked out. But because God works all things for good……..He went back a few years and answered a prayer l had prayed about going back to school and getting my Bachelors degree. I was told there was no way I could do it. But God made a way…..after being home while I was a pastors wife, God opened doors for me to find a good job and I made a good income. God also opened my eyes to the garbage that was going on in the United Pentecostal Church and I escaped and found the wonderful church I attend today and the freedom I have to minister and belong.
So you can’t tell me fasting doesn’t work….it made me strong when I faced the fire and I made it to the other side without the smell of smoke on me. God still answers prayers they just might not be the ones you thought he would answer. He is still an on-time God. If you are having trouble in this area read Isaiah 58. That’s a fast without giving up food. I’ve been on it for a year now and the blessings of God have been amazing.
Don’t let the enemy trick you with fear and anger. You are missing out on the greatest time of your life. Just you and God together.
