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Category: shame

How Long Is Your Skirt? (Er, How Holy Are You?)

I can assume this picture was made to be comical…but with what many in the “holiness/apostolic” movement teach, it really isn’t. I’m thankful for the opportunity to be able to re-examine this issue with a mind that is free from the apostolic/holiness pressure.…

Love Without Fear

This morning I woke up around 4:40 am as usual, because I’m getting older and I have to go use the restroom about that time.  After I got back in bed, I dozed off, but the rest of my sleep was rather light…

Emotional Abuse in the Church

A book caught my eye yesterday. Though most of it doesn’t pertain, one chapter, “Patterns of Abuse”, was very applicable to my experiences and some other experiences I’ve read. The book is The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engel. In the book, Engel…

Neither Do I Condemn You

I watched Join Us, a documentary about a cultish group in TN, the other day. Twice. I’ve also watched a documentary on Westboro. It still amazes me that they use almost verbatim the same words, verses, and manipulative techniques, even if they preach…

Cultic Pseudo Personality

When you’re born into a high-control-high-demand group that enforces separation from “worldlies” you unfortunately have a pseudo personality from a very young age. You’re subjected to many expectations and demands used to create submission and conformity. You live in two different worlds –…