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Giveaway: Take Back Your Life 3rd Edition by Janja Lalich

This is only open to those with a USA mailing address. There is absolutely no cost to enter.

This is your chance to receive a new copy of Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships by Janja Lalich. This is the third edition, which is the latest. The original edition was titled Captive Hearts, Captive Minds and we gave away several dozen copies of that through the years.

“Cult victims and those who have experienced abusive relationships often suffer from fear, confusion, low self-esteem, and post-traumatic stress. Take Back Your Life explains the seductive draw that leads people into such situations, provides insightful information for assessing what happened, and hands-on tools for getting back on track.”

Jana Lalich is an international authority on cults and coercion. She is the founder of the Lalich Center on Cults & Coercion. If you watch documentaries on unhealthy groups, you have probably seen her.

We have a playlist of many interviews and talks she has given here.

This giveaway is a drawing. To enter, just leave a comment to show you wish to be included. The drawing will close on June 3, 2026 at 6pm (eastern time), after which I will draw a winner.

Be sure to check back to see if you have won as in the past some people have not responded after winning and so a new winner had to be drawn. You will then need to email me your mailing address if I do not already have it, so be sure to watch your email and check the spam folder. If I know your Facebook profile, I will message you there.

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Watch for our July 1 post where you will have a chance to win a copy of of C.H. Yadon and the Vanishing Theological Past in Oneness Pentecostalism by Thomas Fudge. It is the third book in his series on Oneness Pentecostalism. It covers Oneness Pentecostal history, and highlights the United Pentecostal Church, of which Mr. Fudge was once a member.

In 2026, we’ll also be giving away one copy of each of the other Thomas Fudge books on the UPCI/Oneness Pentecostalism (Christianity without the Cross: A History of Salvation in Oneness Pentecostalism and Heretics & Politics: Theology, Power, and Perception in the Last Days of CBC).

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Giveaway: Women and Worship at Corinth by Lucy Peppiatt

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This is your chance to receive a new copy of Women and Worship at Corinth: Paul’s Rhetorical Arguments in 1 Corinthians by Lucy Peppiatt.

This is a more academic version of Unveiling Paul’s Women: Making Sense of 1 Corinthians 11:2–16 by the author and covers additional issues.

“Making sense of Paul’s arguments in 1 Corinthians 11-14 regarding both the role of women in public worship and the value of tongues and prophecy for the unbeliever has long posed challenges for any lay reader or scholar. Despite numerous explanations offered over the years, these passages remain marked by inconsistencies, contradictions, and puzzles. Lucy Peppiatt offers a reading of 1 Corinthians 11-14 in which she proposes that Paul is in conversation with the Corinthian male leadership regarding their domineering, superior, and selfish practices, including coercing the women to wear head coverings, lording it over the ‘have-nots’ at the Lord’s Supper, speaking in tongues all at once, and ordering married women to keep quiet in church. Through careful exegesis and theological comment this reading not only brings internal coherence to the text, but paints a picture of the apostle gripped by a vision for a new humanity ‘in the Lord’ resulting in his refusal to compromise with the traditional views of his own society. Instead, as those who should identify with the crucified Christ, he exhorts the Corinthians to make ‘love’ their aim, and thus to restore dignity and honor to women, the outsider, and the poor.”

This giveaway is a drawing. To enter, just leave a comment to show you wish to be included. The drawing will close on May 3, 2026 at 6pm eastern time, after which I will draw a winner.

Don’t be alarmed if your comment does not immediately show as it may require approval.

Watch for our June 1 post where you will have a chance to win a new copy of Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships by Janja Lalich. This is the third edition, which is the latest.

In 2026, we’ll also be giving away one copy of each of Thomas Fudge’s books on the UPCI/Oneness Pentecostalism (Christianity without the Cross: A History of Salvation in Oneness Pentecostalism, Heretics & Politics: Theology, Power, and Perception in the Last Days of CBC and C.H. Yadon and the Vanishing Theological Past in Oneness Pentecostalism).

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Giveaway: Unveiling Paul’s Women by Lucy Peppiatt

This is only open to those with a USA mailing address. There is absolutely no cost to enter.

This is your chance to receive a new copy of Unveiling Paul’s Women: Making Sense of 1 Corinthians 11:2–16 by Lucy Peppiatt.

As many of our readers know, this section of 1 Corinthians has been used to teach that women must wear a head covering when in church, as well as that women must never cut their hair (as taught in the United Pentecostal Church). It’s also been used to teach that women are somewhat less than men.

I found it very interesting how Lucy Peppiatt puts forth the thought that in these passages Paul is repeating some things that the Corinthian believers had written to him. In other words, she believes that in verses 4-5 and 7-10, Paul was repeating what the Corinthians had previously shared with him. Verse 16 is then saying that there is no such custom of wearing head coverings.

We do know that Paul was responding to a letter he had received from this group of believers, so this thought is not unreasonable. We also know that the Corinthians were very messed up and carnal, and Paul had to correct them on numerous issues.

The author also covers various aspects and views on this section of scripture. I found her view of the passages to be plausible and that they made more sense that way. I don’t believe Paul was anti-women and have never liked when people attempt to portray Paul in a negative light. There are actually those who hate Paul, I believe due to a misunderstanding or misinterpretation of certain passages. Perhaps this book will help someone who feels this way.

This giveaway is a drawing. To enter, just leave a comment to show you wish to be included. The drawing will close on April 3, 2026 at 6pm eastern time, after which I will draw a winner.

Don’t be alarmed if your comment does not immediately show as it may require approval.

Watch for our May 1 post where you will have a chance to win a copy of Women and Worship at Corinth: Paul’s Rhetorical Arguments in 1 Corinthians by Lucy Peppiatt.

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Former United Pentecostal Minister Kelsey Cook CSA Conviction Part 3

On March 8 we shared a post from United Pentecostal Church pastor Austin Hopper, of Downtown Church in Battle Creek, Michigan. It pertained in part to the recent conviction of former UPCI minister Kelsey Cook.

In that post, Austin took a firm stand against abuse and promised to protect people and not reputations. We applauded what he wrote in that post. Though we expose various kinds of abuses and have a secondary focus on the UPCI, we also want to bring attention to when their ministers and churches get something right and do what they should when it comes to abuse. Sometimes we receive pushback when we do this. In this case, it was refreshing to see a number of people comment positively about the Hoppers.

Attached is Austin’s March 10 follow-up post. He shares in part that, “Silence has never healed wounds. Ignoring painful realities has never protected anyone. Truth, accountability, and light are what lead to healing and restoration.”

For many, the Cook case came as a complete surprise and shock. Our post on her conviction was seen by over 52,000 people. While some were aware, most appear to have been kept in the dark. As the case had not received any news media coverage, at least not to my knowledge, it was easy to keep people there.

Before her conviction, apparently some were misleading others. Many people were not informed. We heard reports that Kelsey continued to attend services and other events with no word of warning to people. As the allegation involved a female minor under 13 years of age, at the very least parents should have been made aware. This is NOT how one handles allegations of CSA- not even when one might believe that a person is innocent. Since 2023, when the criminal complaint and arraignment occurred, until March 6, 2026 when she was found guilty by a jury, people’s children were potentially placed at risk.

Instead, it should have been openly announced to all in her home church and she should have been removed from all responsibilities and kept away from minors. She shouldn’t have spoken at any church service or event. It should never have been insinuated that charges were dropped. And no one should be contemplating to do so, or telling, lies about her absence.

Not properly handling abuse cases brings darkness. It harms and does not protect. It screams loudly that you and your church are unsafe. Wrong actions cause people to rightly wonder what else may have been hidden over the years.

Any minister who covers up, hides, or lies about abuses, works in darkness. “But when your eye is unhealthy, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is!” (Matthew 6:23 NLT)

Austin went on to speak to his fellow ministers and leaders. “When abuse happens and leaders say nothing, victims hear that their pain is inconvenient. When pastors stay quiet because they are afraid of controversy, reputation, or backlash, predators learn that the church is a safe place to hide.

“Protecting the name of the church while ignoring the protection of people is not righteousness. It is cowardice.

“Shepherds are not called to protect wolves. They are called to protect the flock.”

The Kelsey Cook case is the fourth case so far in 2026 where former UPCI ministers were convicted of sexual charges. (Others: Dominic Foor, James Lawson, Scott Huse) Our hearts go out to all survivors and their families and may all who have been harmed find some justice in our legal system.

I originally posted about this on March 13, 2026 on our Facebook Page.

You will find a complete list of articles in this series by clicking here.

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Former United Pentecostal Minister Kelsey Cook CSA Conviction Part 2

This post is connected to the article on the Kelsey Cook case, which was posted on Friday. While it is in part related to the case, it is being shared due to the strong public stand that this pastor made regarding sexual abuse. It deserves to be shared.

About three hours ago, Austin Hopper, the lead pastor at Downtown Church in Battle Creek, Michigan made this post. It is a United Pentecostal Church.

While no name was mentioned of the one who was convicted, it is former UPCI minister Kelsey Cook, who is also in Michigan. She is now in jail awaiting sentencing and is facing a minimum of 25 years behind bars. On Friday we made our initial post on the case.

It is refreshing to see Austin’s post as all too often we have covered cases where victims were not supported and abuses were covered up and not reported to police. In fact, after posting about the Cook case, I heard of two more where this happened, both UPCI related. There are ministers who show up in court proceedings, not in support of victims, but supporting accused perpetrators.

Austin has taken a firm stand against abuse and promised to protect people and not reputations. We wish every UPCI minister would take a firm stand like what was shared in his post- and not just take the stand, but follow through and truly set in place safeguards in the churches, immediately report to police cases of abuse or suspected abuse, and support victims, both privately and publicly. And for once I would love to see a bunch of UPCI ministers showing up in court and sitting on the side of victims. Not one of them showed in support of victims at the recent sentencing of former UPCI pastor Scott Huse in Wisconsin.

The Cook case is one where it had been reported that some people had allegedly been told the case was closed when that never happened. It had been alleged that she was showing up for UPCI gatherings as if she was not facing a very serious charge.

See also Part 3, with a second post from Austin Hopper.

I originally posted about this on March 8, 2026 on our Facebook Page.

You will find a complete list of articles in this series by clicking here.

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