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Healing

The pain is real. The journey to healing is real. It’s long and at times feels like it is never-ending. But every year when I look back over the previous year I see the progress that has been made – rebuilding my life.…

Raising Two PKs in the UPCI

I was not raised a PK but as a pastor’s wife I had trouble fitting in with other pastor’s wives because I thought I wasn’t good enough to be around them. I wasn’t raised by Christian parents and especially not in a pastor’s…

If The Truth Fits

Proverbs 10:32 “The lips of the righteous know what finds favor, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse.” The phenomenon of spiritual abuse is very complex. It often includes more than just the leader or leaders who are the spearhead…

Struggles In Starting Over

Someone had posted their thoughts elsewhere and I obtained permission to share them here with our readers. It is our hope that it will be encouraging to people. Directly below is the post and afterward I will add a few comments. *****All these…

Top September 2017 Posts

In September 2017, the blog section of the spiritual abuse website had 7570 visits, with 4303 being unique. We are always looking for new people to join our group of bloggers, so please consider registering and watch your email for more information. How…

Spiritual Neglect

Spiritual abuse is a term we’ve come to understand, many through experience. My recent experiences have made me wonder if we should also discuss spiritual neglect. I found no articles about spiritual neglect, no discussions about it’s impact, but it is quite possible…

A Modern Parable

“God, help us to love our neighbors more,” they prayed at church on Sunday. After service, they filed from the sanctuary, not smiling, not saying hello to the person who nodded at them or offered a greeting. “I’ve seen her here before. She…

The Miry Clay

I’ve been out of legalism and attending a healthy grace-filled church for six years and feel like I’ve come a long way in my healing from spiritual abuse. I struggle with depression, anxiety, and PTCS (post traumatic church syndrome, my made up phrase…

Freedom from Abuse

One of the most common ways in which people are psychologically traumatized whilst in a cult or religious high control group, is the extreme pressure to “forgive” people who have abused them.  I use the word “forgive” in quotes, because the concept often…