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A Modern Parable

“God, help us to love our neighbors more,” they prayed at church on Sunday. After service, they filed from the sanctuary, not smiling, not saying hello to the person who nodded at them or offered a greeting. “I’ve seen her here before. She…

The Miry Clay

I’ve been out of legalism and attending a healthy grace-filled church for six years and feel like I’ve come a long way in my healing from spiritual abuse. I struggle with depression, anxiety, and PTCS (post traumatic church syndrome, my made up phrase…

Freedom from Abuse

One of the most common ways in which people are psychologically traumatized whilst in a cult or religious high control group, is the extreme pressure to “forgive” people who have abused them.  I use the word “forgive” in quotes, because the concept often…

What happened to being nice?

I’ve been attending a certain church since February. In all that time, I still haven’t really connected with anyone. They’ve said so many times, “We’re all introverts,” as an excuse for why they aren’t friendlier. This morning I pulled into the parking lot…

Is Your Church a Safe Zone or a Red Flag?

A lot of people suffer from a bit of shortsightedness in regards to their local congregations when it comes to spiritual abuse survivors. I can’t speak for those in fundamentalist/evangelical/charismatic settings, but in my own experiences within liberal mainline Christianity, I think a…

Top August 2017 Posts

In August 2017, the blog section of the spiritual abuse website had 6317 visits, with 3417 being unique. We are always looking for new people to join our group of bloggers, so please consider registering and watch your email for more information. How…

Our 20th Anniversary Giveaway

This is now closed. We have given away books for years as part of the spiritualabuse.org ministry and this will be our fourth large one via this blog for 2017 and it is in celebration of our 20 year anniversary of the website.…

Our 20th Anniversary

Today marks the 20th anniversary of the spiritualabuse.org website. We had a very small beginning way back on August 23, 1997 and over time have grown to be fairly large. We were originally part of AOL’s home pages (membership pages) until January 25,…