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The Sin of Truth Speaking.

“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32, ESV). The church I grew up in claims to be one of the few ” with a revelation of the truth”.  There were many comments continually about other churches “not…

A Pastor Who Should Not Have Been Part 2

Part five of a series of articles. As I’ve written elsewhere, ‘if you are interacting with a sex offender who is admitting he or she has harmed someone, and you feel yourself being pulled to feel sorry for this person instead of, or…

A UPC Church Responds To Sexual Abuse

Part three of a series of articles. In the United States, 25 percent of girls and 8 percent of boys are sexually abused before they turn 18. It’s incredible then that with a staggering number of victims, it often takes a critical mass—and time—before…

When the church betrays us, pt 4

I moved with hopes that the next church would be better. I would be an adult there, surely. I would have friends my age. Nope. The new church wanted me involved, which was great. But the story was the same. There were few…

When the church betrays us, pt 3

I spent seven years in the first Pentecostal church I was in. The first was great. And then I went home for the summer. I didn’t like the Pentecostal churches in my parents’ area, but they were better than my parents’ church. Besides,…

When church betrays, pt 2

As I grew up, I became more and more hopeful that I could go somewhere else to church. Friends would invite me to their youth meetings occasionally. I begged Mom to let me go more often, or to change churches completely, but I…

Woe to Me or Woe to You?

Last Sunday’s readings used in many liturgical churches included 1 Corinthians 9:16-23. In all honesty, what sticks out for me the most when I encounter this passage isn’t anything I associate with something preached from a pulpit. Rather, it’s a heated online exchange…

When church betrays us, pt 1

‘Jesus never fails’, the old hymn goes. But his church definitely does. What happens when the church betrays us? How can this impact us? I can’t speak for everyone. But here is my story. I was raised in a nondenominational church. It was…