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When Forgiveness Becomes Dangerous (And Morally Wrong)

Forgiveness, Mercy and Grace are the cornerstones of the Christian message. However, forgiveness becomes dangerous when gross, moral sin has taken place and forgiveness is used as a weapon for silencing victims and a cloak to coverup suspicion, unwanted attention and accountability.

This is my first step of exposing such dangerous practices, dangerous forgiveness and coverup, and I hope this gains traction, attention and spreads like wild fire.

We are seeing an onslaught of sexual impurity in churches around the globe. We in America see it daily in the news. In my anecdotal studies I have found that nearly 30%+ of sexual abuse/assault involving a minor comes from Christian leaders with authority over that minor, or in Christian homes with fundamental, authoritarian beliefs. As someone who claims the Christian Faith, this is something I don’t take lightly or with joy.

Jesus Christ was quick to forgive. To show mercy, and grace, and inspire change in his followers. As Christians, we also believe that change cannot take place without the grace and power of the Holy Spirit. To point, Christ is quoted in Matthew 6:14 as saying, “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly father will also forgive you.”

This is a beautiful quote and is seen again with the Samaritan woman at Jacob’s well in John 4, and the adulteress in John 8. But even in these encounters, Jesus never silenced a victim or whitewashed over sin. The Samaritan woman was commanded to Worship and follow Christ and the adulteress was told to sin no more. We are commanded to forgive, and we should be fast and free to forgive, But…

When Forgiveness Becomes Dangerous

In recent news, the hall of fame family of the United Pentecostal Church, International, the Ensey family has been shaken. The son, Jonathan R. Ensey was recently sentenced to eight to twelve years in a federal penitentiary for sexual misconduct with a minor in his church.

The crux of the story, in all it’s gruesome twists, is that the father, Pastor of Living Way Church in Conroe, Texas, Randy Ensey covered up the story. The parents of the victim alerted Randy Ensey to the inappropriate behavior and he did nothing. It wasn’t until the parents, and bless them for having the courage, took it to the police that things unfolded from there.

In the news story linked here, you’ll read, as you do in almost all of these cases, how the congregation of the Living Way Church packed the courtroom in defense of this man.

I’ve seen this type of behavior, multiple times, first hand. And in the past 30 days, this type of dangerous forgiveness has sprung up in another Pentecostal church. My old home town church. Abundant Life Pentecostal Church.

Abundant Life Pentecostal Church, located in McMinnville, Oregon has a long history of cover ups. During my 15 years there I saw the pastors ‘pray’ over child abuse instead of reporting it authorities. I’ve been made aware of the private school supervisor checking the under garments of under-age girls attending school to make sure they were ‘approved’.

While that was second hand information, I sat through years of their required ‘Family Class’ as my child was in the same school. In that class they taught at what ages your female child could wear certain kinds of underwear and they took that very seriously.

I’ve seen the leadership secret in a man through the back doors and have him sit in the ‘upper room’, above the baptistry, who had a restraining order against him for domestic abuse, while his victim sat in the congregation, just to make sure he was in church.

The then pastor, William “Bill” Davies and his son (now the pastor) Matthew Davies were found guilty of violating child labor laws by using church youth in their commercial landscaping business without pay and were ordered by the Bureau of Labor and Industries to pay restitution.

When William Davies demonstrably defamed the man responsible for reporting their acts during a church service, a service in which he demanded the entire congregation to turn off their phones and to not record what he was about to say, they were sued for defamation and paid an undisclosed amount to settle. All thanks to a few brave souls who saw the red-flag of the pastoral demands and recorded the service.

During this trial and to this day, members of the congregation blamed ‘Satan’ for attacking their man of God and still defend his innocence in all cases, just as we saw in the Ensey case and many more like it. And now, this forgiveness becomes dangerous again.

A Predator in the Classroom

About 30 days ago I found out that a young man who had been suspected, charged, and convicted of sexually assaulting his young sister (circa 2013-2015) is now an appointed (by the Davies) Sunday School Teacher at Abundant Life Pentecostal Church, in McMinnville, Oregon, for the 9-12 year old class, called the Amplified Class. You can see the churches website here: www.alpcministries.org. (2023 Edit: That website is no longer in operation, so an archived link is given. The new link is https://alpc.church.)

This young man was 15-16 at the time the abuse started and the sister was 7. By public accounts, the abuse spanned about two years until the young man was finally arrested, tried and then sent away. The victim, and her family, still attend Abundant Life Pentecostal.

I can’t speak to all the details and dates as I don’t want anything quoted to be found untrue. What is true, is that this young man was forgiven, and welcomed back in to the church with open arms upon his release.

His victim is now a silenced member of the church. He was given a fancy church wedding while she is told to keep things to herself and forgive. And he is now a Sunday School teacher, overseeing children the same age that his victim was.

Forgiveness Or Moral Failure?

Is this forgiveness, or a stumbling block? Is this tempting the Lord, thy God, or restoration?

The reason I am not naming the young man is because in this instance, the moral failure is on the now pastor of Abundant Life Pentecostal Church, Matthew Davies and the churches ‘board of elders’. Should the young man distance himself from such a thing? Absolutely. And if he was to harm another child, he should be held accountable.

Yet and more-so, in these fundamental church systems such as Oneness Pentecostalism, and in the United Pentecostal Church, they have such a delusional view of forgiveness that they would believe it safe to put a young man who molested a little girl, in a classroom of little girls, the age of his previous victim, so long as he obeys them.

And should another child be hurt, I believe the moral failure, and legal ramifications, should fall on the leadership of the church for making this bad of a decision, every bit as much as on the young man, should he recidivate.

There is a deep rooted command in Christian faith to forgive, but not to tempt. To restore, but not to make a room for evil. Equal to forgiveness is the command to not put a stumbling block before your brother. For me now, being knowledgeable of this circumstance, as much as I forgive the previous trespass, I cannot ignore the potential for harm and be silent.

If any harm comes to another child, I equally feel I would be morally responsible should I not speak out. Furthermore, this was the classroom that my 9 year old daughter was attending. How dare they, the leadership of that church, put my own daughter at great risk to satisfy their twisted ideals?

They truly believe if you shout enough, speak in tongues enough, and attend enough, you are ‘Ok’. Did that save Jonathan Ensey and his victim? It did not, and I’ll not sit idly by watching and waiting for another news story to pop up.

Men and Brethren, What Should We Do?

I do not want to be seen as inciting hate mail, hate speech, defamation, or any other inappropriate behavior. If any feel so inclined to contact this church and demand answers or tell them how terrible of a choice this is, you are free to do so. I will personally be publishing more information as I cannot sit idly by while children are put in harms way but I can only share factual information.

My family no longer attends this church, I pulled that plug after they wantonly endangered my daughter. But there are dozens, potentially hundreds of other children, both members of the church and bused in ‘bus kids’ in the Sunday school at risk.

I also feel inclined to say that it is possible that this young man’s record is expunged. He may have been tried as a child and not as an adult and thus, legally, there is no law being violated. And if that is the case, I would forgive, but never trust him again. No way should he be attending the same church as his victim.

There is tremendous boundaries of trust, responsibility, wisdom and discernment being recklessly abandoned for the sake of their precious doctrines even if not legal boundaries.

I want to ask the pastor, Matthew Davies, “What would you do if it was your daughter?” and other members of the McMinnville, OR community should be asking him the same thing.

Abundant Life Pentecostal Church
1145 SW Wallace Road
McMinnville, OR 97128
503-472-1585

Pastor Matthew Davies
matt@alpcministries.org

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Giveaway: Christianity Without The Cross by Thomas Fudge

It is time for another book giveaway! This is only open to those with a USA mailing address.

This is your chance to receive a used copy of Christianity without the Cross: A History of Salvation in Oneness Pentecostalism by Thomas Fudge. It is the first book in his series on Oneness Pentecostalism. It sells new for $29.95. It covers aspects of the United Pentecostal Church and Oneness history that they would rather you not know and which is often downplayed by leadership. You may read much more about this book here.

This giveaway is a drawing. To enter, just leave a comment to show you wish to be included. The drawing will close on March 20, 2022 at 6pm (eastern time), after which I will draw the winner. Be sure to check back to see if you have won as in the past some people have not responded after winning and so a new winner had to be drawn. You will then need to email me your mailing address if I do not already have it, so be sure to watch your email and check the spam folder. There is absolutely no cost to enter. Don’t be alarmed if your comment does not immediately show as they require approval when you are commenting for the first time.

We always provide these at no charge to our readers and support group members. Our support group members will have a second chance to enter via the group, as well as here.

Some might be interested in a series of lectures by Thomas Fudge on the history of Christianity from the Roman Empire until the Reformation. https://youtu.be/WgTDplQabRk

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United Pentecostal Pastor Stephen Barker, Raul Rodriguez & A Lawsuit Part 4

This is the 46th installment in this series and a follow up to my first, second and third articles on this situation. A lawsuit was filed on December 3, 2020 by United Pentecostal Church pastor Stephen Barker against Emily Calderon. She is a former church member, who since 2020 has been outspoken about multiple cases of alleged sexual abuse involving the late Raul Rodriguez, a long-time and prominent member of Mount Zion Apostolic Church in Visalia (Goshen), California. Rodriguez was Barker’s brother-in-law. There are at least four different allegations of such behavior against him. The defamation lawsuit is also against twenty unnamed individuals and seeks payment of a half million dollars. This is case VCU285173. A jury trial is currently scheduled for January 31, 2022.

Unexpectedly in mid December, the plaintiff’s attorney requested an emergency court meeting for December 17, 2021 to ask that the settlement conference be rescheduled and for the trial dates and all discovery deadlines and cutoffs be continued. In this article I am sharing the actual plaintiff’s motions to continue the settlement conference and postpone the trial until September or October of 2022, something Emily Calderon opposes. You may read their motion to postpone (motion and declaration) as well as Emily’s objections. (Note: I have redacted Emily’s personal information.) You are encouraged  to read the documents for yourself.

Tomorrow, on Monday December 20, 2021, a settlement conference is scheduled but could still be delayed. At the hearing on December 17, the judge decided that he would make a ruling on the continuance requests on the 20th and it was said that Stephen Barker was to attend.

It was shocking to discover that apparently Stephen Barker did not inform his attorney that his father, Ron Barker, had died until about a month after his passing. He had time to make numerous Facebook posts about church events and his father, but did not think to alert the attorney? The attorney is now claiming that the death of Ron Barker “has made trial preparations difficult” and “has reduced PLAINTIFFS’ ability to prepare for trial.”

Personally, I do not see it this way. The plaintiffs have to prove that Calderon made statements maliciously, knowing her statements were untrue or that she didn’t look into their veracity. If they cannot do this, their lawsuit is over, though Emily’s cross complaint would continue. It appears that Calderon has statements from at least four women, one of which filed a police report and gave a deposition for the lawsuit. I simply cannot see the plaintiffs being able to prove what they are claiming. In addition, as I pointed out in the last installment, we must ask if Stephen Barker or any prior minister/pastor from Mount Zion Apostolic Church ever reported child sexual abuse cases to the police. The police should be able to easily verify if this did or did not occur. If it did not, then I believe that people have the right to conclude that a church has helped to cover up such abuse. Clergy are mandatory reporters in California and failure to do so can subject the person to fines and even prison time.

The plaintiffs claim that Emily “has refused to amend discovery responses and PLAINITFFS have Motions to Compel these responses scheduled for January 27, 2021. Defendant’s refusal to respond to discovery requests has resulted in PLAINTIFFS’ inability to property prepare their case and to properly prepare a defense in the cross-complaint.” They further state, “The refusal to provide responses has harmed PLAINTIFFS and greatly hindered their ability to prepare their case and defenses.” [Note: the court date for the motion has been rescheduled for January 13, 2022.]

In Emily’s response, she claims that these “discovery questions are completely irrelevant and highly prejudicial. PLAINTIFFS’ are exploiting the discovery process. DEFENDANT will ask the court to reject much of the PLAINTIFFS’ discovery request, as many are protected by privilege.”

I find it interesting that they wish to compel her to respond to their questions and yet (from watching Emily’s TikToks) it appears they have failed to answer many questions posed to them. In addition, let’s remember that back before they filed this lawsuit, their attorney had already claimed “we can prove that your defamatory statements are false and misleading.” [See screen shot one and two from Emily’s TikTok.] Why they then need her responses to questions is perplexing, at least in regard to their lawsuit.

I do wish to point out an error regarding a date in Calderon’s objection. She mentions about the plaintiffs seeking a restraining order against her on September 15, 2021. That was the court date where the judge denied their request. It was on July 15, 2021 that the civil petition for harassment was filed. I previously covered this.

I want to make clear once again that this lawsuit is a public record, I believe the pastor would be considered a public figure, and as such people are free to discuss this case and the issues involved with it, sharing their thoughts and opinions. In addition, the issue of sexual abuse is unquestionably a very public issue.

Emily has a petition at Change.org that so far has 572 signatures.

December 20, 2021 Update: The trial is still on for January 31, 2022! Emily Calderon has prevailed today.

You will find a complete list of articles in this series by clicking here.

United Pentecostal Pastor Stephen Barker, Raul Rodriguez & A Lawsuit Part 3

This is the 45th installment in this series and a follow up to my first and second articles on this situation. A lawsuit was filed on December 3, 2020 by United Pentecostal Church pastor Stephen Barker against Emily Calderon. She is a former church member, who since 2020 has been very outspoken about multiple cases of alleged sexual abuse involving the late Raul Rodriguez, a long-time and very involved member of Mount Zion Apostolic Church in Visalia (Goshen), California, who was Barker’s brother-in-law. There are at least four different allegations of such behavior against him. The defamation lawsuit is also against twenty unnamed individuals and seeks payment of a half million dollars. This is case VCU285173. A jury trial is scheduled for January 31, 2022.

Stephen Barker

On Monday, December 20, 2021, Emily will be attending a settlement conference regarding the case. She had to let her attorney go back in October, so she will not have representation at this meeting. My thoughts are that no settlement will be reached as the plaintiffs appear to be pressing forward with the lawsuit unless she retracts her statements and agrees to not communicate about these things in the future, something Emily is not willing to do. (See this video.) I do not know if they would stipulate that she sign an NDA, but I don’t believe that people should sign NDAs in cases like this or anything related to sexual abuse. Emily and her former attorney previously attempted to settle the case with them, but they declined, I assume in part because they did not wish to pay her attorney fees.

I am supplying the original lawsuit in PDF format, as well as the response from Calderon’s former attorney, where she denies their allegations. I purchased these from the court as the documents are available to the public. I believe that people should know more details about the case and the claims made in the original filing and I encourage everyone to read the documents for themselves. I will be sharing two additional documents in my next installment. You will probably find the initial response to the lawsuit hard to follow as the attorney is sharing many legal reasons why it is believed that the lawsuit is not valid. Because of this, I won’t be commenting on it. Let’s take a brief look at what the plaintiffs are claiming.

I shared in the first article that when someone sues for defamation, the burden of proof rests on the person(s) filing the lawsuit. My understanding of this is that they must prove the statements made by Emily are false and that she knew the statements were untrue or made them maliciously, not caring about the veracity or lack thereof. In addition, the statements must be proven to have been made to a third party and that the plaintiffs incurred damages because of them. In the plaintiff’s initial mid September 2020 letter to Calderon, prior to the lawsuit when they asked her to remove her social media posts and cease, the attorney claimed that her posts “have already caused great harm to the Church and the Pastor” and that “we can prove that your defamatory statements are false and misleading.” Take note that in just over a month from when they acknowledge Emily’s posts started, they claimed great harm had occurred. [See screen shot one and two from Emily’s TikTok.]

After a bunch of necessary initial legal statements, at paragraph 9 we start to see the specifics of the lawsuit. Stephen Barker states that his reputation is “critical to his role as leader of Mt. Zion Apostolic Church.” He goes on to say that he is a mandatory reporter and that he “follows all of his legal duties, and holds himself and his colleagues to the highest moral standards.” It is later stated that the church “provides a safe place for members to worship.”

Harvey Cantrell

I believe that Barker was made aware of at least some of the sexual abuse allegations against Rodriguez in 2020, if not before. As a mandatory reporter, I believe he would then have the obligation to report the allegations to police, whether or not he believed them, and whether or not Rodriguez admitted to them. It is not up to a pastor to decide the veracity of an accusation before reporting. The question must then be asked, do the police have any instances where Barker reported possible child sexual abuse? To me, because of victim statements, such information would solve the majority of this case. In my opinion, when a minister is made aware of child sexual abuse allegations and does not report it to police, they are helping to cover up the abuse and protect the alleged perpetrator. Often this enables abusers to continue harming others. Ministers are NOT supposed to be handling these ‘in house,’ no matter how good their intentions may be. [I will add that had United Pentecostal pastor Harvey Cantrell reported Meghan Estrada’s allegations to police about 14 years ago, when he was made aware of it, then perhaps none of what is happening now would have occurred. One could then ask another question: Do the police have any instances where a former or present minister at this church reported possible child sexual abuse? I ask this because some who were members of Calvary Gospel Church in Madison, Wisconsin, had been under the impression that their pastor reported. Years later they discovered that the church had never made any reports of child sexual abuse. You will find numerous articles about that church in this blog series.]

Let our readers be reminded that due to the actions of two United Pentecostal Church ministers in California, Arthur Hodges III and George Nobbs, clergy were specifically added to the mandatory reporting law in California. Hodges and Nobbs were arrested in 1988 for failing to report child sexual abuse that was committed by a fellow UPC minister, Lyn Meche. Convicted in 1991, they appealed and it was upheld in 1992. This case is mentioned on pages 130 and 131 in the book, The Clergy Sex Abuse Crisis and the Legal Responses.

Emily Calderon

In paragraph 15 they claim that Emily Calderon “has felt anger, resentment, and malice toward” them. In the following section they state that around September 4, 2020, she made posts to Facebook that accused Barker and Mt. Zion of “covering up sexual abuse and of protecting a sexual predator.” They claim that at the same time she published a post to a “‘Minister’s Forum’ that was viewed by many of the pastor’s colleagues, members of the Church, and Church leaders.” They do not name this forum, nor the platform on which it is located. My guess is that this may have been an app that Mt. Zion uses for leaders in the church or perhaps a private Facebook group for Mt. Zion leaders. My knowledge of actual minister’s forums that have operated are that only licensed UPCI ministers may join and have access and that Emily would not have been able to gain entry.

They go on to claim that around the following day Emily contacted the UPCI Superintendent. It is my understanding that she did make a comment on David Bernard’s Facebook profile. Bernard has two profiles on that platform, a public figure one and a regular one. A number of people have used Bernard’s profile to mention or ask about what they believe to be wrongdoings in UPCI churches. Since Bernard has others who have access to his profile and are often the ones responding, he may personally have never seen or known about any posting.

Paragraph 19 states that either in late October or early November that Emily posted on Facebook that Ron Barker (who died November 1, 2021) was guilty of committing a sexual act. Ron Barker is one of the parties suing Calderon and is the father of Stephen Barker. In a phone recording made where he was speaking with Emily’s husband, Steven, he can be heard saying that he was going to “sue you guys until you ain’t got nothing left.” It appears to me that he was the main person driving the lawsuit. You can hear his words for yourself here. Due to this and other calls and alleged threats, on November 17, 2020, Steven Calderon filed for civil harassment restraining orders against Ron. This was case VCU285028. It was denied on December 7, 2020.

Paragraph 20 pretty much sums up their claims of defamation in stating that Emily has claimed the following:
1) that Pastor Barker has covered up sexual abuse for a long period
2) that Mt. Zion has covered up sexual abuse for a long period of time
3) that Ron Barker has covered up sexual abuse for a long period
4) that Pastor Barker has protected a sexual predator(s)
5) that Mt. Zion has protected a sexual predator(s)
6) that Ron Barker has protected a sexual predator(s)

They believe that she knew her statements were false, that they were made with malice, and that her “long-term grudge” against them “drives her to defame” them and to “inflict emotional and economic harm.”

For the first cause of action, it is stated that the plaintiffs “suffered, and continue to suffer, professional harm and financial loss” due to Calderon’s statements and that they “have been exposed to ridicule and harm to professional reputation.” In the next paragraph they go on to state that they “suffered, and continue to suffer from shame, mortification, and hurt feelings” due to this. This is repeated in the second cause of action.

In the third cause of action, it is claimed that Calderon knew of their income and operations and that “she sought to disrupt” their “current and future economic relationships.” They go on to state that her actions have resulted in economic harm. It would be interesting to see how the church would show they have suffered financially as a direct result of Emily’s statements. We are in the midst of a pandemic and the income of many ministers and churches has decreased. I find this aspect of the lawsuit interesting, considering that, according to the phone conversation between Ron Barker and Steve Calderon, that Ron Barker wanted to harm them financially through a lawsuit. In addition, the lawsuit is also against 20 unnamed/unknown individuals. It states that they will amend the lawsuit “to allege their true names and capacities when ascertained” and yet over the course of more than a year this has not been done. This also causes me to believe that this was filed with the intent to harm the Calderon family financially, in addition to stopping Emily from speaking out about child sexual abuse.

In the fourth and fifth causes of action, the plaintiffs allege they have “suffered significant emotional harm…including anxiety, loss of sleep, and reduced health.” It will be interesting to see the medical bills to support this claim. They go on to request damages in the amount of $500,000 in addition to general, special and punitive damages and their attorney costs and fees. They also desire injunctive relief ordering Calderon to end the alleged harassment and defamation, that all her posts and her agent’s posts be removed, and that she make a “written retraction of all relevant false and defamatory statements.”

Meghan (Estrada) Robles, one of the alleged victims, filed a police report and gave a deposition for this case. Larissa Martinez, another alleged victim, shared in six of Emily’s videos some of what happened to her. I believe she provided a written statement for the lawsuit, as may have other alleged victims. I personally believe the victims and my heart goes out to them. In my opinion, if their reports are true and if no minister at Mt. Zion Apostolic Church ever reported the allegations to police, then I believe no defamation has occurred. As shared above, if a minister fails to report, then I believe they are helping to cover up the abuse (whether or not that is their intention) and such protects the alleged perpetrator and may enable them to continue harming others. In my opinion, if such later becomes public, any emotional or economic harm would be the result of such failure to report.

As a reminder to everyone, in late 2019, the United Pentecostal Church adopted a position paper on abuse and sexual abuse that they expect their ministers to follow.

I want to make clear once again that this lawsuit is a public record, I believe the pastor would be considered a public figure, and as such people are free to discuss this case and the issues involved with it, sharing their thoughts and opinions. In addition, the issue of sexual abuse is unquestionably a very public issue.

Emily has a petition at Change.org that so far has 558 signatures.

December 13, 2021 Note: The plaintiff’s attorney has scheduled an emergency court meeting for December 17, 2021 to request that the settlement conference be rescheduled and to take the trial date off the calendar.

You will find a complete list of articles in this series by clicking here.

Giveaway: Christianity Without The Cross by Thomas Fudge

This is only open to those with a USA mailing address.

This is your chance to receive a used copy of Christianity without the Cross: A History of Salvation in Oneness Pentecostalism by Thomas Fudge. It is the first book in his series on Oneness Pentecostalism. It sells for $29.95. It covers aspects of the United Pentecostal Church and Oneness history that they would rather you not know and which is often downplayed by leadership. This will conclude our 2021 giveaways for the series of books by Fudge. You may read much more about this book here.

This giveaway is a drawing and not a first come, first served giveaway. To enter, just leave a comment to show you wish to be included. The drawing will close on December 4, 2021 at 6pm (eastern time), after which I will draw the winner. Be sure to check back to see if you have won as in the past some people have not responded after winning and so a new winner had to be drawn. You will then need to email me your mailing address if I do not already have it, so be sure to watch your email and check the spam folder. There is absolutely no cost to enter. Don’t be alarmed if your comment does not immediately show as they require approval when you are commenting for the first time.

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Some might be interested in a series of lectures by Thomas Fudge on the history of Christianity from the Roman Empire until the Reformation. https://youtu.be/WgTDplQabRk

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