Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: holiness standards

God, Our Heavenly Father

To many of us survivors of an abusive legalistic church environment, and the abuse from male dominant leadership, it can be difficult to trust organized religion and a God that was portrayed as one who was angry and ready to destroy you and…

A Time To Heal – A Time To Build Up

Part Two of Two Part Series “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: ‭‭…..“A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up;” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:1,3‬ ‭NKJV‬ This…

A Time To Kill – A Time To Break Down

Part One of Two Part Series “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: ‭‭…..“A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up;” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:1,3‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ When…

Dear Church, Part 3

I was taught to look at how people were dressed and what they did to determine if they were Christians. When things got really bad at my unhealthy church and people started shunning me, I started seeking fellowship online. I ended up in…

Search for Truth on Holiness

Many of you know that Search for Truth is a home Bible study usually given to new converts. There is also Search for Truth II. Surprisingly to outsiders or those coming into Oneness Pentecost (OP), there is little teaching on what is called…

Dear Church, Part 2

Dear church: Some of you posted on Facebook, statements like “how can anyone call themselves Christian and vote for ____.” Some of you got upset when I responded that my faith in Jesus-not my vote-made me a Christ-follower, a Christian. Some of you…

Getting Out the Old Books: Larry L. Booker

I have been going through different author’s writings on the subject of women’s apparel for the Facebook group Breaking Out. Today I am taking quotes from Larry L. Booker’s book What a Difference a Line Can Make. There are a few pastors that…

A Closer Look at Deuteronomy 22:5

A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment for all who do so are an abomination unto the Lord your God. This scripture has been used by many legalistic churches, particularly…