Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: holiness standards

Healing

The pain is real. The journey to healing is real. It’s long and at times feels like it is never-ending. But every year when I look back over the previous year I see the progress that has been made – rebuilding my life.…

My Church Experience After Leaving

This is a brief summary of the first seven years of my church experiences after leaving the United Pentecostal Church. Understand that for several years afterward, I still believed the main salvation teachings of the group. When I left my former UPC church…

UPC Unpardonable Part 2

Continued… Well sure enough, we got a call from the assistant pastor to come into his office before church the following Sunday night.  The pastor was out of town but was grooming his son to take over the church and since he came…

UPC Unpardonable

Okay, I did it.  I admit it.  I cut my hair and my daughter’s hair.  I can still remember the first time I cut my hair.  We were probably about six years into the United Pentecostal Experience, when I was sitting on the…

The outward appearance

Legalists often quote a partial verse, “man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart,” to prove they should maintain “standards” of dress and hair. This is a prime example of a partial verse quoted out of context to make…

Twisting scripture

As kids, we were playing with some neighbors. We had some cheap plastic bead play necklaces. One of the neighbors decided to twist it around and around her fingers, snapping the beads, glued to the string, together so that they interlocked and made…

God, Our Heavenly Father

To many of us survivors of an abusive legalistic church environment, and the abuse from male dominant leadership, it can be difficult to trust organized religion and a God that was portrayed as one who was angry and ready to destroy you and…

A Time To Heal – A Time To Build Up

Part Two of Two Part Series “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: ‭‭…..“A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up;” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:1,3‬ ‭NKJV‬ This…