Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Author: Grace

Born into family of third generation Oneness Pentecostal parents, to a father who was a second generation UPC preacher, and a mother who'd been raised by UPC preacher father as well. My parents' goal was to raise me up to be "preacher's wife material", which they considered the "highest calling" for a female. I am currently in a graduate program for psychological counseling. I work in the mental health field, with children and families. My goal is to educate and enlighten parents to raise children who are self confident and happy, free from anxiety and depression, as well as other pathological outcomes from abusive upbringing.

The Sin of Truth Speaking

“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32, ESV). The church I grew up in claims to be one of the few “with a revelation of the truth”.  There were many comments continually about other churches “not having…

Traumatic Submission

Growing up, I was indoctrinated early to know that obedience and submission were godly, while rebellion or disobedience would end in eternal damnation.  I probably could’ve told you this in simple terms by the time I was three or four years old. I…

Dissonance

What is it? How does it apply to spiritual abuse? Who does it affect? The dictionary defines dissonance as: “lack of harmony among musical notes. a tension or clash resulting from the combination of two disharmonious or unsuitable elements.” A great analogy would…

Toilet Training Your Emotions

Weird as that title might sound, we all have a load of emotions to deal with.  Especially if you’ve been in a spiritually abusive environment, sometimes the feelings can be very overwhelming.  The thing is, you were probably taught that some of those…

God is Like An Elephant

How would you describe an elephant?  To me, elephants are gray, and generally calm.  They are plodding, steadfast, and they nurture their young.  They generally live in herds, and they can work together to accomplish important tasks for the livelihood of their ecosystem. …

“Of Like Precious”…(Abuse?)

If I had a dime for all the times I heard it said “of like precious faith”, I’d likely be very rich today (but only if I didn’t give all those dimes away in the offering). “Of like precious faith” was a code…

Love Without Fear

This morning I woke up around 4:40 am as usual, because I’m getting older and I have to go use the restroom about that time.  After I got back in bed, I dozed off, but the rest of my sleep was rather light…

Attachment

In a recent turn of events, I was discussing with a professional counselor various aspects of relationships with people who are members of the cult that I grew up in. Specifically, we were discussing relationships with family members who are still involved in…

Identity Theft

I got this cup for Christmas from my best friend. It says “Be You.” Only a very close friend could have known the impact of that phrase for me. As I have written before, when one is raised in the cult environment, an…

Holiday Celebration

As I have been working the last two weeks, I have run across different ideas from different churches that affect children who are my clients. These differences have to do with how holidays are celebrated. Needless to say, I have definitely had a few…