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Odd thoughts on communion

It’s New Year’s Eve, the time of the traditional watch night service, or foot washing and communion in many Pentecostal circles. It was one of the biggest nights of the year for me for the nineteen years I was “in,” and it’s a…

Top December 2017 Posts

In December 2017, the blog section of the spiritual abuse website had 9882 visits, with 6047 being unique. Below are the top ten read posts for December from seven different authors. We are always looking for new people to join our group of…

Grief and memories

I’ve been reading a book on grieving, No One Cries the Wrong Way. The author lists several ways to grieve, and it occurred to me that none of the ones listed works for those who grieve a loss like ours, because we are…

One Silent Night

We live in a troubled world filled with violence, evil, poverty and disease. You never know what a day or night will bring. Anything can happen to rock our world; a phone call, kicked out of the church you’d been attending, a job…

Keeping the Peace: Will It Drive You Mad?

I think many of us probably feel as though being a “peacekeeper” is nothing to feel blessed about. It seems like the holiday season, in particular, brings out the very worst in people. How can you cope when you’re dealing with the stress that…

Gossip – a rampant ‘sport’

Gossip and slander was rampant in the sect. It kept things interesting. Sadly, especially amongst the women. If they can tear another down to build themselves up, then why not? Nobody appeared to question the amount of toxic gossip. I’m a very sensitive…