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Category: sexual abuse

A Pastor Who Should Not Have Been Part 3

Part six of a series of articles. ‘This was never something I anticipated. This is not a platform that I ever wanted,’ she said. ‘I actively desired not to be a public figure on the issue of sexual abuse because it requires relinquishing…

The Sin of Truth Speaking

“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32, ESV). The church I grew up in claims to be one of the few “with a revelation of the truth”.  There were many comments continually about other churches “not having…

A Pastor Who Should Not Have Been Part 2

Part five of a series of articles. As I’ve written elsewhere, ‘if you are interacting with a sex offender who is admitting he or she has harmed someone, and you feel yourself being pulled to feel sorry for this person instead of, or…

A UPC Church Responds To Sexual Abuse

Part three of a series of articles. In the United States, 25 percent of girls and 8 percent of boys are sexually abused before they turn 18. It’s incredible then that with a staggering number of victims, it often takes a critical mass—and time—before…

A UPC Minister’s Sexual Fantasy

Part two of a series of articles. The call from West Virginia came one evening after 11:00 PM back in late 1993, not long before I made my exodus out of the United Pentecostal Church. He was a minister, having held license for…

The United Pentecostal Church and Sexual Abuse

This is the first of a several part series. It appears that one of the greatest temptations facing the ministry is sex. How does sexual purity relate to God’s requirements? Sexual immorality is clearly excluded by the requirements of ‘blameless, good report, good…

Traumatic Submission

Growing up, I was indoctrinated early to know that obedience and submission were godly, while rebellion or disobedience would end in eternal damnation.  I probably could’ve told you this in simple terms by the time I was three or four years old. I…

Shame on You!

As stated before, I was a sensitive child.  I grew into a sensitive teen, who became a sensitive adult.  The age-old question arises, was it nature or nurture? Was it biology, or environment?  Obviously, it is impossible to decipher. Regardless of the cause,…

Bloody Hands, Wounded Souls

*WARNING: This contains material which may be triggering to some* As I spent the rest of my growing up years as the pastor’s daughter of this church, many different things happened. A lot of them were things that I did not understand at…