Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: questioning

Leaving (pt 2)

Continued from here. When I left my former group, I needed a place to talk through things with people who would understand, and found three groups that seemed to. They were very different. One announced personal information about me, which scared me. The…

A Meeting with a Pastor

Tonight I met with the pastor of the church I’ve been attending. The conversation was interesting. He was alright. I still don’t trust him; there were some strange twists and turns in the conversation that made me wonder if he was avoiding some…

Search for Truth on Holiness

Many of you know that Search for Truth is a home Bible study usually given to new converts. There is also Search for Truth II. Surprisingly to outsiders or those coming into Oneness Pentecost (OP), there is little teaching on what is called…

Dear Pastor, Part Two

Dear pastor: I heard you say that your primary responsibility is to your members, rather than to all who attend or to people in general. I don’t understand. Where did Jesus or any of the apostles or authors of the New Testament ever…

PTCS -Post Traumatic Church Syndrome

It is not important what is in front of you, or behind you. It is what is inside of you that counts. I read these “words of wisdom” on Facebook today and thought it was good advice except when you suffer from periods…

When answers aren’t enough

So I have questions. Questions I would desperately like answers to… yet when I hear the answers I’ve heard, have found them to fall woefully short of truly answering the questions. The answers I need aren’t found in words alone. They’re found in…

Brief Thoughts On Bitterness

For those of us who left abusive unhealthy churches, the warning against bitterness is an appropriate one. Whether a bad experience was in a church setting or totally unrelated, one needs to be on guard to not allow bitterness to remain should it…

Why is God silent?

Oh, I know the pat answers. You just aren’t listening. You just need to have faith. We have the Holy Ghost. I’ve given those answers enough times in my life. I know them well, but they don’t work for me anymore. In the…

Questions

I have been feeling better about God… so good that I turned on some Christian music and looked through some Christian books this afternoon. Bad decision. Some friends and I have been talking about idolatry lately. I’m not sure that idolatry encompasses everything…