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Traumatic Submission

Growing up, I was indoctrinated early to know that obedience and submission were godly, while rebellion or disobedience would end in eternal damnation.  I probably could’ve told you this in simple terms by the time I was three or four years old. I…

Answers to Prayer?

I was told way too often my prayers weren’t answered because I was somehow wrong. I prayed I’d get married-“you aren’t married, there must be some sin in your life. Work through it, seek God first, and he’ll give you what you want”.…

“Of Like Precious”…(Abuse?)

If I had a dime for all the times I heard it said “of like precious faith”, I’d likely be very rich today (but only if I didn’t give all those dimes away in the offering). “Of like precious faith” was a code…

Walking In The Light

O house of Jacob, come and let us walk In the light of the LORD. Isaiah‬ ‭2:5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about why we were all subjected to spiritual abuse. Why did it happen to me when I so…

Bible Reading and Prayer

I’ve asked and been asking myself for years why I struggle so much with Bible reading and prayer. I’ve finally gotten to a point where I can talk to God a little bit, but I wouldn’t say we were on close speaking terms.…

What keeps them enslaved?

What keeps them enslaved? In one word I would say “fear”. Fear of rejection. Fear of breaking the rules. Fear of damnation. Fear of freedom. Fear of shunning. Fear of the unknown. Fear of hell. Fear of God. Fear of what other people…

22 Similarities In Christian Cults

One of our readers, D.M., submitted this article and they wish to remain anonymous. ******************* With the “me too” campaign being highlighted on social media recently, I decided it’s time to stop the code of silence on this issue. I just finished reading…

UPC Unpardonable Part 2

Continued… Well sure enough, we got a call from the assistant pastor to come into his office before church the following Sunday night.  The pastor was out of town but was grooming his son to take over the church and since he came…