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Category: obey the pastor

Dissonance

What is it? How does it apply to spiritual abuse? Who does it affect? The dictionary defines dissonance as: “lack of harmony among musical notes. a tension or clash resulting from the combination of two disharmonious or unsuitable elements.” A great analogy would…

Taking every thought captive

There are also some things I was told I had to do to be saved. I was taught to just stop thinking about some things, “taking every thought captive”. However, refusing to think about certain things, particularly problems in the church, is NOT…

22 Similarities In Christian Cults

One of our readers, D.M., submitted this article and they wish to remain anonymous. ******************* With the “me too” campaign being highlighted on social media recently, I decided it’s time to stop the code of silence on this issue. I just finished reading…

A Time To Kill – A Time To Break Down

Part One of Two Part Series “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: ‭‭…..“A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up;” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:1,3‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ When…

A Brand New Bible

A new Bible is like a fresh start. There are no markings, nothing is highlighted, you can read it with fresh eyes and study it with a brand new heart. When I left UPC I purchased a brand new Bible in the New…

Parents

When I lived at home, my parents insisted on taking me to a church that my sister and I both strongly disliked. There was no youth group. There was one class for all the kids, combined. Mom taught it, and it was just…

I Just Couldn’t

I couldn’t stay once I read it in the bible for myself. I couldn’t stay any longer when I found out that a lot of what I believed was added into scripture. I couldn’t stay any longer once my eyes where open to…