Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: unhealthy churches

Pants or not pants?

Pants for women has become a laughable argument in Pentecost. The argument at my former church was that tights were fine because they had feet, so they resembled hose. Hose were not pants, and hose were for women, so tights were OK (at…

Afraid to leave… afraid to stay

I’ve been reorganizing. As I did, I came across a good-bye letter from me to the pastor from March 2008. I didn’t actually leave until December 2009. I don’t remember what prompted me to write the letter; I’m fairly certain it had to…

Walking In The Light

O house of Jacob, come and let us walk In the light of the LORD. Isaiah‬ ‭2:5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about why we were all subjected to spiritual abuse. Why did it happen to me when I so…

IFB: Courage To Be You

Are you a puzzle piece or a an original? Think on that for a moment. Fit in. We all try to do it at one point in our lives or another. School, work, church, home, sports, social groups, you name it. We’re all…

Of Red Doors and Bed Posts

I installed a new door this weekend. And after some debate I painted it red… and laughed because everyone would expect a nice, conservative white door at my house. This morning, driving away from my house, enjoying the fall colors and my new…

The Elders – What an Unsavory Bunch of Men

The elders. What an unsavory bunch of men. So much religious pride and self-righteousness. So much heartlessness. I guess they probably got to their elevated position using less-than-savory tactics. One particular encounter with an elder sticks out. I was in the process of…

Bible Reading and Prayer

I’ve asked and been asking myself for years why I struggle so much with Bible reading and prayer. I’ve finally gotten to a point where I can talk to God a little bit, but I wouldn’t say we were on close speaking terms.…

The sacred cows of Pentecost

According to Wiktionary, a sacred cow is something that can’t “be tampered with, or criticized, for fear of public outcry. A person, institution, belief system, etc. which, for no reason other than the demands of established social etiquette or popular opinion, should be…