Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: recovery

Healing

The pain is real. The journey to healing is real. It’s long and at times feels like it is never-ending. But every year when I look back over the previous year I see the progress that has been made – rebuilding my life.…

If The Truth Fits

Proverbs 10:32 “The lips of the righteous know what finds favor, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse.” The phenomenon of spiritual abuse is very complex. It often includes more than just the leader or leaders who are the spearhead…

Struggles In Starting Over

Someone had posted their thoughts elsewhere and I obtained permission to share them here with our readers. It is our hope that it will be encouraging to people. Directly below is the post and afterward I will add a few comments. *****All these…

Is Your Church a Safe Zone or a Red Flag?

A lot of people suffer from a bit of shortsightedness in regards to their local congregations when it comes to spiritual abuse survivors. I can’t speak for those in fundamentalist/evangelical/charismatic settings, but in my own experiences within liberal mainline Christianity, I think a…

On The Other Side

On the other side The sun will shine On the other side Everything is fine On the other side We’ll learn to be content I know where the grass is green We’ll step ashore and the air is clean So weep no more…

The Shattering II Giveaway

Sexual abuse is something which should never happen. To be assaulted or raped often devastates the person; they are violated in a most personal manner. When the perpetrator is a minister, it can have a profound effect spiritually. That also holds true when…

Fears after Leaving

After leaving, there may be a time period of trying to find some balance, a time when a person might go to opposite extremes with a sort of pendulum effect. Different people seek different kinds of balance. Some may go to extremes with…

Twisting scripture

As kids, we were playing with some neighbors. We had some cheap plastic bead play necklaces. One of the neighbors decided to twist it around and around her fingers, snapping the beads, glued to the string, together so that they interlocked and made…

Why does it take so long?

People may wonder–*I* wonder–why it’s taken me so long to get over some things. Part of it is that I was abused in more than one church, and had been taught to doubt myself and be dependent even before that, so there’s been…

A Time To Heal – A Time To Build Up

Part Two of Two Part Series “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: ‭‭…..“A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up;” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:1,3‬ ‭NKJV‬ This…