Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: love

If The Truth Fits

Proverbs 10:32 “The lips of the righteous know what finds favor, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse.” The phenomenon of spiritual abuse is very complex. It often includes more than just the leader or leaders who are the spearhead…

Dirty Words

Like words made of dirt, gravel, and twigs that need to be chewed up and spit out as quickly as possible or the taste would be too much to bear.  There were these kinds of words spoken in my United Pentecostal Church.  They…

Gary Chapman- The Five Love Languages

I’ve been thinking about this book quite a bit lately, especially since reading part of The Five Love Languages of God. My primary love language is words of affirmation. In high school I started focusing on good things teachers said about me. I’d…

Love Without Fear

This morning I woke up around 4:40 am as usual, because I’m getting older and I have to go use the restroom about that time.  After I got back in bed, I dozed off, but the rest of my sleep was rather light…

Approaching A New Year

As we approach a new year, and knowing I have more behind me than ahead of me, it becomes ever more important to own who I am. I am a child of God saved by grace through faith in Jesus Christ my Lord.…

Sacrifice… or love?

I just had an interesting thought. In my first Pentecostal church, there was a whole lot of singing about sacrifice. I will Give You All “God spoke to Abraham and said, give your only son, to offer as a sacrifice to the one…

God’s love

In my former church, the pastor emphasized that we can’t be “good enough” for God. I assume that what he meant was that we will never be able to “earn” salvation- it’s a gift. But his statement bothered me because of the way…

Religion or Christ?

When your salvation depends on what you do rather than what Christ did, it is not salvation at all but just another doctrine of men. When your church promotes pride in identity of their own brand rather than the love of God to…

I am convinced

For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is…

Faith, Hope, Love

There is a children’s song that goes: Have faith, hope, and charity, that’s the way to live successfully. How do I know the Bible tells me so…. I think one of the most devastating attributes of an unhealthy, legalistic church is that they…

It is no secret

There is a wonderful old song: It is no secret what God can do, what he’s done for others, he’ll do for you! With arms wide open, he’ll pardon you, it is no secret what God can do. God’s plan is no secret.…

Appreciating Love: God Gave Me Biff

To fully appreciate the love of God, one needs a reference point. Often this may be one’s father who in his demonstration of unconditional love, lays a foundation of experience that would allow a belief in an all loving God. Unfortunately, many of…