Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: hurt

Rebuilding beliefs

One thing that’s common in leaving groups like my former one is that, in leaving, people have to rebuild everything they believe. They have to sort through what the group taught, what they agree with and what they don’t, what others teach and…

Wounded Sheep: The IFB Flock, Part I

The Bully Pulpit and Jezebel Spirit of Rogue Independent-Fundamental Baptist Churches This evil is causing tremendous damage to our Lord’s flock through spiritual abuse and perversion of Scripture to meet the agenda of nefarious leaders.  Our desire is to shed light in this…

Just Couldn’t Stay Part 2

Continued from Part One. It wasn’t just one thing that made me decide to leave as I mentioned yesterday, it was a compilation of many. Alright back story time. I grew up in a “holiness” church. Translation: any and everything will result in…

Shame on You!

As stated before, I was a sensitive child.  I grew into a sensitive teen, who became a sensitive adult.  The age-old question arises, was it nature or nurture? Was it biology, or environment?  Obviously, it is impossible to decipher. Regardless of the cause,…

The End Was Only A New Beginning…

“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting.  If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim.  If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.”…

Ministers Who Don’t Keep Confidences

Ministers who don’t keep confidences are another sign of an unhealthy church. One should be able to counsel with a minister and know that what is shared will stay between them alone, unless permission is given otherwise. The United Pentecostal Church, in their…

Growing Up as a PK

Growing up as a preacher’s kid had its own special set of problems, as well as privileges. While other kids in the church made it clear to me they were jealous of the fact that I got to be around preachers’ families, (some…

Bloody Hands, Wounded Souls

*WARNING: This contains material which may be triggering to some* As I spent the rest of my growing up years as the pastor’s daughter of this church, many different things happened. A lot of them were things that I did not understand at…