Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: discernment

Putting On A Facade

In looking for something else, I recently came across the experience of a woman who joined the United Pentecostal Church and had been married to one of their ministers. She shared how her husband regularly lied when he spoke at churches and how…

Marriage Trouble Part 2

Continued from part 1 Some positive things I gleaned from ‘Created to be His Help Meet‘ was learning to be thankful and cheerful. I was probably stuck on living opposite most of the time. So this convicted me and I really appreciated it…

Manipulation

I had someone recently inform me that someone in my new church had manipulated me. They didn’t ask whether I’d made a decision and followed through or if the other person had pressured me. They didn’t know the other person. They didn’t ask…

Signs, Signs, Everywhere A Sign

“Signs, signs, everywhere a sign….” Remember this old song? (I took the liberty of adding an s.) In some churches it is all about signs. Seeking signs. Desiring signs. Disappointed if there are no signs. It’s not a good service if there are…

Just Couldn’t Stay Part 2

Continued from Part One. It wasn’t just one thing that made me decide to leave as I mentioned yesterday, it was a compilation of many. Alright back story time. I grew up in a “holiness” church. Translation: any and everything will result in…

I Just Couldn’t

I couldn’t stay once I read it in the bible for myself. I couldn’t stay any longer when I found out that a lot of what I believed was added into scripture. I couldn’t stay any longer once my eyes where open to…

Salem

In doing some research for a class project a year or two after being thrown out of a church, I came across an interactive activity enacting the trials. I sat clicking through it, stunned. I had been familiar with the trials, but I…