Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Category: Churches

Pants or not pants?

Pants for women has become a laughable argument in Pentecost. The argument at my former church was that tights were fine because they had feet, so they resembled hose. Hose were not pants, and hose were for women, so tights were OK (at…

Afraid to leave… afraid to stay

I’ve been reorganizing. As I did, I came across a good-bye letter from me to the pastor from March 2008. I didn’t actually leave until December 2009. I don’t remember what prompted me to write the letter; I’m fairly certain it had to…

IFB: Courage To Be You

Are you a puzzle piece or a an original? Think on that for a moment. Fit in. We all try to do it at one point in our lives or another. School, work, church, home, sports, social groups, you name it. We’re all…

Bible Reading and Prayer

I’ve asked and been asking myself for years why I struggle so much with Bible reading and prayer. I’ve finally gotten to a point where I can talk to God a little bit, but I wouldn’t say we were on close speaking terms.…

The sacred cows of Pentecost

According to Wiktionary, a sacred cow is something that can’t “be tampered with, or criticized, for fear of public outcry. A person, institution, belief system, etc. which, for no reason other than the demands of established social etiquette or popular opinion, should be…

Raising Two PKs in the UPCI

I was not raised a PK but as a pastor’s wife I had trouble fitting in with other pastor’s wives because I thought I wasn’t good enough to be around them. I wasn’t raised by Christian parents and especially not in a pastor’s…

If The Truth Fits

Proverbs 10:32 “The lips of the righteous know what finds favor, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse.” The phenomenon of spiritual abuse is very complex. It often includes more than just the leader or leaders who are the spearhead…

My Church Experience After Leaving Part 2

This is continued from Part 1. Years later when I saw error in the main teachings of the United Pentecostal Church, so much time had passed in not attending a church that the thought of doing so brought about a bit of apprehension.…

My Church Experience After Leaving

This is a brief summary of the first seven years of my church experiences after leaving the United Pentecostal Church. Understand that for several years afterward, I still believed the main salvation teachings of the group. When I left my former UPC church…

Early Interracial Oneness Pentecostalism Giveaway

We have given away books for years as part of the spiritualabuse.org ministry. This is your chance to receive a used copy of Early Interracial Oneness Pentecostalism by Talmadge L. French.  It is mainly about G.T. Haywood and the Pentecostal Assemblies Of The…