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Category: Churches

When the church divides, part 3

After leaving my final Pentecostal church, I was a little surprised to learn how distrustful I was of others who’d left. When we left, most of us didn’t interact with others who’d left. We didn’t trust each other. Our pastor had preached that…

When the church divides, part 2

I ran into a pastor and pastor’s wife I’d once known. The wife asked where I was living, and if I’d attended a certain church. Then she told a sad story. Her daughter had a happy marriage, but suddenly began expressing concerns. Someone…

A Pastor Who Should Not Have Been Part 3

Part six of a series of articles. ‘This was never something I anticipated. This is not a platform that I ever wanted,’ she said. ‘I actively desired not to be a public figure on the issue of sexual abuse because it requires relinquishing…

The Sin of Truth Speaking

“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32, ESV). The church I grew up in claims to be one of the few “with a revelation of the truth”.  There were many comments continually about other churches “not having…

A Pastor Who Should Not Have Been Part 2

Part five of a series of articles. As I’ve written elsewhere, ‘if you are interacting with a sex offender who is admitting he or she has harmed someone, and you feel yourself being pulled to feel sorry for this person instead of, or…

A UPC Church Responds To Sexual Abuse

Part three of a series of articles. In the United States, 25 percent of girls and 8 percent of boys are sexually abused before they turn 18. It’s incredible then that with a staggering number of victims, it often takes a critical mass—and time—before…

When the church betrays us, pt 4

I moved with hopes that the next church would be better. I would be an adult there, surely. I would have friends my age. Nope. The new church wanted me involved, which was great. But the story was the same. There were few…

When the church betrays us, pt 3

I spent seven years in the first Pentecostal church I was in. The first was great. And then I went home for the summer. I didn’t like the Pentecostal churches in my parents’ area, but they were better than my parents’ church. Besides,…