Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Author: Mary

These writings cover many years, starting in 2009. Because of this, the time frame in individual posts may appear to be wrong and it may seem like things changed sooner than actually happened.

Calvary, Salvation and Us

I was taught that Jesus did his part on Calvary. Now it’s up to us. Up to us to do right, since baptism covers sin up to that point but we’ll still face judgment for any wrongs since baptism. Up to us to…

Culture Shock

Most of you know I recently joined a mainstream church. Going there has been interesting at times… They can quote a verse and understand it completely differently than me, can use a Bible term I’ve thought I understood and mean something else by…

Parents

When I lived at home, my parents insisted on taking me to a church that my sister and I both strongly disliked. There was no youth group. There was one class for all the kids, combined. Mom taught it, and it was just…

The Character of a Man

“You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.” James D. Miles I saw this on Facebook. It brought back memories. In my former church, the men were expected to be “manly”……

Denominational interpretations of passages

It’s very interesting how differently various denominations/churches interpret certain verses. My church ordained four deacons. Something was said about ordaining and laying on of hands, and I’ve been thinking “this I gotta see!” The ordination seemed about like a wedding, vows and such.…

Manipulation

I had someone recently inform me that someone in my new church had manipulated me. They didn’t ask whether I’d made a decision and followed through or if the other person had pressured me. They didn’t know the other person. They didn’t ask…

Kicked Out

I had the strangest dream-memory last night. The dream was very clear flashbacks of my time in the United Pentecostal Church in the late 90s, before Junction City. Oddly I could remember people’s faces and actions so very clearly. Most of the time…

Emotional Abuse in the Church

A book caught my eye yesterday. Though most of it doesn’t pertain, one chapter, “Patterns of Abuse”, was very applicable to my experiences and some other experiences I’ve read. The book is The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engel. In the book, Engel…

Communion

I’ll miss having watchnight service tonight… the old fashioned kind with foot washing and communion and worship, praying the old year out and the new year in. Its been around 5 years since I was in an old fashioned watchnight service. Those held…

The Still Small Voice

So you’ve faced a storm lately? Faced deafening winds, the heat of fiery trials, earthquakes that seem to shake everything right out from under you? Listen closely. Maybe there have been a lot of earthquakes and fires and wind in your life. A…

Merry Christmas

Christmas. One of my favorite times of year. Lights, presents, food, family, friends, music, food, presents… j/k.. We always had a very Christ-centered Christmas growing up. Yes, Santa came, and we put cookies and milk out for him sometimes (though I think Mrs.…

Expulsion II

In writing something else I remembered realizing that only one person in the New Testament was listed as being thrown out of church–a man who “had his father’s wife” in Corinth. Several years ago I was thrown out of a church because the…