Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Author: Lois

I was a member of the United Pentecostal Church for just under 13 years and was a licensed minister during a short part of that time. I am the owner of the SpiritualAbuse.org website, which was started four years after leaving. I am originally from southern New Jersey.

Brief Thoughts On Bitterness

For those of us who left abusive unhealthy churches, the warning against bitterness is an appropriate one. Whether a bad experience was in a church setting or totally unrelated, one needs to be on guard to not allow bitterness to remain should it…

Focus on Church or Jesus?

We often speak of the difference between following religion and having a relationship with God. Many of us, while in the United Pentecostal Church or similar churches, ended up getting caught up in religion and our focus shifted. Below is a quote from…

Is Your Identity In Your Dress?

You can be known as a “jean skirt girl” – but why would you want your identity wrapped around what you wear? Or your long uncut hair? Or anything similar? As a Christian, shouldn’t we want our identity to be wrapped around Jesus…

Have You Spoken Out About Spiritual Abuse?

I have had people share with me over the years that at first they didn’t realize that they had experienced what has been termed as spiritual abuse. It wasn’t until they came across a site such as spiritualabuse.org that they started to see…

First Book Giveaway of 2017

This giveaway has now ended, March 7, 2017. We have given away books for years as part of the spiritualabuse.org ministry and this will be our first one via this blog for 2017. This is your chance to receive one or more free…

Top February Posts

This is for those interested in seeing the top ten read blogs from February 2017. The blog section of the spiritual abuse website had 5886 visits, with 2417 being unique. We are always looking for new people to join our group of bloggers,…

United Pentecostal Church Manual Part 6

In my last post in this series, I covered the basic cost of being licensed in the United Pentecostal Church. We discovered that besides the yearly national fees of $374, $386 or $398, each minister must also pay money to the district in…

United Pentecostal Church Manual Part 5

This is a continuation of the rules regarding licensed ministers in the United Pentecostal Church. This covers the very basic cost of holding license and does not include the expense of purchasing books and videos in order to obtain the initial license or…

Return to the Body of Christ?

Every so often I check Amazon to see if they have new material related to spiritual abuse for sale. I did so this week and became irritated when I saw the write up for the book, Spiritual Abuse in the Church, by Angela…

When A Pastor Morally Fails

A pastor/minister morally fails. People are devastated, hurt, confused, angry, sad and their faith is shaken. The church is thrown into turmoil. This appears to be happening more frequently in our present time. Are there signs we can watch for, that something is…

Oneness Pentecostal Snake Handlers

I didn’t know about it until several years ago, but there is even a Oneness Pentecostal snake handling book. To my knowledge, it has only been Pentecostal type churches who have incorporated this practice. The book is Handling Serpents by Jimmy Morrow and…