Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Author: GFMom

I am a happily married Christian mother of 6 beautiful children. I'm an "ambivert" who loves to read, go on walks, I like simplicity, I like to listen to the Bible on an audio app while I'm doing chores. I got saved nearly a decade and a half ago. Before that I was raised in Mormonism but fell away in my late teens. I'm happy to have a growing relationship with My Savior Jesus Christ.

Titus 2: 3-5

In some Christian circles around the blogosphere there is this idea of ‘Biblical Womanhood,’ which comes across as a sort of Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 theology for Christian women, whereby women seek to encourage and influence other women to believe and practice…

Marriage Trouble Part 5

I forgot to list a couple of verses in my last post that were used in Michael Pearl’s “Moral Earnestness Test:” And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. – 1 Timothy 2:14…

Marriage Trouble Part 4

I want to explain why I think the teachings in “Created to be His Help Meet” book by Debi Pearl and the “Marriage God’s Way” DVD by Michael Pearl are completely heretical at least in situations like mine was, and worse, dangerous for…

Kicked Out on Mother’s Day

This coming Sunday is Mother’s Day. It will mark a year from the day my former pastor indirectly invited me to leave his church from the pulpit. He said something to the effect: “If anybody doesn’t like that I’m rough around the edges…

Marriage Trouble Part 3

Some of the things I remember that were negative about all the power I was giving my husband was I was busy trying to be so perfect. If my husband was less than happy it would really break my heart. One time he…

Marriage Trouble Part 2

Continued from part 1 Some positive things I gleaned from ‘Created to be His Help Meet‘ was learning to be thankful and cheerful. I was probably stuck on living opposite most of the time. So this convicted me and I really appreciated it…

Marriage Trouble Part 1

A few years ago I started really questioning my beliefs about wifely submission. I had practiced it for over a decade since I first became a Christian. I was in a marriage where I felt unequally yoked even though my husband was a…

Why I Left: Final Part 5

Continued from Part Four. I appealed in a letter to the senior pastor because I doubted that my email would get to him. It didn’t do much good. He didn’t respond to me directly. Instead he told the other pastors and counselor (3…

Why I Left: Part 4

Continued from Part Three. This next part is pretty painful and I had trouble remembering the order of the next series of events which was mostly psychological warfare I felt from the pulpit. When the senior pastor came back from his long recovery…

Why I Left: Part 3

Continued from Part Two. As you might imagine I was quite upset with having to wait the whole weekend for some closure. That night I went to bed anxious. I prayed, and did some more self examination. I told my husband for some…

Why I Left: Part 2

Continued from Part One. So every now and then when I got a concern I would address it in email. But I hardly got feedback besides a few times. My first real red flag concern was their incomplete teaching on marriage. The response…

Why I Left: Part 1

I left Calvary Chapel church on Mother’s Day. Before that, over a span of several months I was dealing with a lot of weird stuff with some of the pastors and female counselor. The concerns I had were nagging. When I first started…