Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Author: Nana5

I am a former UPCI pastor's wife and been divorced for 15 years. I left the UPCI in 2011 and now an active member of Crosspoint Church in St Louis, MO. I am a retired tax accountant and I have been blessed with 2 grown children and 5 granddaughters.

God, Our Heavenly Father

To many of us survivors of an abusive legalistic church environment, and the abuse from male dominant leadership, it can be difficult to trust organized religion and a God that was portrayed as one who was angry and ready to destroy you and…

A Time To Heal – A Time To Build Up

Part Two of Two Part Series “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: ‭‭…..“A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up;” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:1,3‬ ‭NKJV‬ This…

A Time To Kill – A Time To Break Down

Part One of Two Part Series “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: ‭‭…..“A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up;” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:1,3‬ ‭NKJV‬‬ When…

A Closer Look at Deuteronomy 22:5

A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment for all who do so are an abomination unto the Lord your God. This scripture has been used by many legalistic churches, particularly…

Dressing Modestly or To Impress?

According to the dictionary the word modesty can mean several different things and I chose the following: 1. free from ostentation or showy extravagance 2. having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc. Many women in the United Pentecostal…

Lessons From My Garden

I come from a long line of gardeners and I probably should throw in farmers too because that was a basic part of my family’s heritage. My great, great, great grandfather migrated from Wales to the States and joined the Continental Army at…

PTCS -Post Traumatic Church Syndrome

It is not important what is in front of you, or behind you. It is what is inside of you that counts. I read these “words of wisdom” on Facebook today and thought it was good advice except when you suffer from periods…

More Than A Dash….

I attended a funeral and the speaker who was giving the eulogy spoke about life being just a dash between birth and death and what we did in that dash was our life. He continued to speak how this person, with a great…