Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Author: ThereIsLife

The Elders – What an Unsavory Bunch of Men

The elders. What an unsavory bunch of men. So much religious pride and self-righteousness. So much heartlessness. I guess they probably got to their elevated position using less-than-savory tactics. One particular encounter with an elder sticks out. I was in the process of…

What keeps them enslaved?

What keeps them enslaved? In one word I would say “fear”. Fear of rejection. Fear of breaking the rules. Fear of damnation. Fear of freedom. Fear of shunning. Fear of the unknown. Fear of hell. Fear of God. Fear of what other people…

Domestic Abuse – Rampant and Minimized

It’s bizarre that their trinity appears to be Father, Son, and Holy Bible. If something is not explicitly mentioned in the Bible then it is not allowed. End of discussion. They seem to forget that God also writes His truth on our hearts,…

Don’t dare ask questions!

In the sect that I was in until age 33, no questions were allowed to be asked that might threaten the tight religious control or their very narrow worldview. People of true and secure faith are not afraid of questions. But they were…

Sheep

The thing that baffles me most about cults is the level of mind control going on and how as humans we can so easily be turned into compliant “sheep”. In the past I have watched YouTube videos and TED talks about how brainwashing…

Healing

The pain is real. The journey to healing is real. It’s long and at times feels like it is never-ending. But every year when I look back over the previous year I see the progress that has been made – rebuilding my life.…

Cultic Pseudo Personality

When you’re born into a high-control-high-demand group that enforces separation from “worldlies” you unfortunately have a pseudo personality from a very young age. You’re subjected to many expectations and demands used to create submission and conformity. You live in two different worlds –…