Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Author: Nancy

Nancy is living happily on the sun coast with her husband of 45 years. She is at peace with God and her favorite verse is God is Love.

Approaching A New Year

As we approach a new year, and knowing I have more behind me than ahead of me, it becomes ever more important to own who I am. I am a child of God saved by grace through faith in Jesus Christ my Lord.…

Religion or Christ?

When your salvation depends on what you do rather than what Christ did, it is not salvation at all but just another doctrine of men. When your church promotes pride in identity of their own brand rather than the love of God to…

Faith, Hope, Love

There is a children’s song that goes: Have faith, hope, and charity, that’s the way to live successfully. How do I know the Bible tells me so…. I think one of the most devastating attributes of an unhealthy, legalistic church is that they…

bananafanabobana

I never could get that little ditty right no matter how hard I tried, it just never made sense so I couldn’t get it to stick in my mind. Kinda like the legalistic, unhealthy church doctrine. So much of it was mumbo jumbo…

The nature of God

The CREATOR, The Great I AM, The Father, The Intercessor, The Savior, The Son, The Spirit, The Comforter… In my former religion, it was said we could define God with the following explanation: I am a father, a son, a husband but my…

Get out of my head!

¬†Individuals who suffer abuse sometimes escape, heal, and move on to live productive lives, but there is a part of them that can never forget and sometimes that causes problems. Growing up in a legalistic, spiritually abusive denomination also creates memories hard to…

Bragging Rights

Message Bible, Galatians 6:11-13 The people who are attempting to force the way of circumcision (ie: legalistic rules) on you have only one motive, they want an easy way to look good before others, lacking the courage to live by a faith that…

It is no secret

There is a wonderful old song: It is no secret what God can do, what he’s done for others, he’ll do for you! With arms wide open, he’ll pardon you, it is no secret what God can do. God’s plan is no secret.…

Trust Issues

After my initial fear of her, I came to adore my first grade teacher. She seemed to reciprocate that feeling throughout my first grade year. That summer, I missed her and at the beginning of the next school year, I couldn’t wait to…

Selective reading of the scriptures

It amazes me how my former church organization was able to justify reading the scriptures to support their doctrines and ignoring the ones that do not. An example is “Man looks on the outward appearance but God looks on the heart”. They interpret…

God Answers Prayer

Sometimes I think maybe God allows us to experience things just so He can show us how much he loves us and how great He is. We don’t earn our blessings, we don’t deserve them, we can’t demand them but God in His…