Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Month: March 2017

Exclusivity or Inclusion?

Seven years ago, I left a spiritually abusive “church”. By the time I left, the group had undermined my self-confidence and my desire for a close relationship with Jesus. I saw God as angry, punishing, and legalistic. In order to survive, there were…

Against Oneness Pentecostalism Giveaway

Thanks to the generosity of Michael R. Burgos, Jr.,  we are giving away two brand new copies of his book, Against Oneness Pentecostalism. This sells on Amazon for $16 and was released in 2016. It contains many footnotes. Michael plans to issue a…

How Long Is Your Skirt? (Er, How Holy Are You?)

I can assume this picture was made to be comical…but with what many in the “holiness/apostolic” movement teach, it really isn’t. I’m thankful for the opportunity to be able to re-examine this issue with a mind that is free from the apostolic/holiness pressure.…

When answers aren’t enough

So I have questions. Questions I would desperately like answers to… yet when I hear the answers I’ve heard, have found them to fall woefully short of truly answering the questions. The answers I need aren’t found in words alone. They’re found in…

Brief Thoughts On Bitterness

For those of us who left abusive unhealthy churches, the warning against bitterness is an appropriate one. Whether a bad experience was in a church setting or totally unrelated, one needs to be on guard to not allow bitterness to remain should it…

Church Hunting

I left my former unhealthy church seven years ago. Since then I’ve been a part of several churches, but in the last four years none ever really felt completely like home. Close, but not quite. Three moves, two more than 100 miles, hasn’t…

Why is God silent?

Oh, I know the pat answers. You just aren’t listening. You just need to have faith. We have the Holy Ghost. I’ve given those answers enough times in my life. I know them well, but they don’t work for me anymore. In the…

Focus on Church or Jesus?

We often speak of the difference between following religion and having a relationship with God. Many of us, while in the United Pentecostal Church or similar churches, ended up getting caught up in religion and our focus shifted. Below is a quote from…

What Do We Do Now?

I’ve struggled with this question. Evangelical Christianity on the whole is really messed up. But I’ve been to other types of churches… and found they’re pretty messed up, too, though in different ways. Many feel they alone have some special understanding of God…

Questions

I have been feeling better about God… so good that I turned on some Christian music and looked through some Christian books this afternoon. Bad decision. Some friends and I have been talking about idolatry lately. I’m not sure that idolatry encompasses everything…

Is Your Identity In Your Dress?

You can be known as a “jean skirt girl” – but why would you want your identity wrapped around what you wear? Or your long uncut hair? Or anything similar? As a Christian, shouldn’t we want our identity to be wrapped around Jesus…