Half of the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm but the harm does not interest them. -T.S. Eliot, poet (26 Sep 1888-1965)
Substitute “church” for “world” and maybe “pastors” for “people” and you have what happens in an abusive/cult-like church. Maybe they don’t mean harm to others (some don’t and some do) but they don’t care about the harm done. I don’t think they even consider what harm their words or actions might be, but we as the congregation they preach to are expected to be very mindful to NOT harm the pastor or any of his family with our words or actions. Truly a one way street. They can beat us up verbally and spiritually but we are not allowed one word in question toward them.