Multiple bloggers sharing, educating and supporting those who have been in unhealthy churches.

Month: June 2016

Fear of Being Judged

Will I ever lose the fear of being judged by that group? This is a question that is often asked when a person leaves an unhealthy church. Often it is in relation to the various standards that are taught. If you have recently…

Veiled Threats In Sermons

Different ministers in the group I exited would use various stories that were intended to place fear in those attending services. It was always something bad with a person being killed in an unpleasant way. Or perhaps God smote them with an illness…

Does Salvation Come And Go?

The way some act in unhealthy churches, the salvation of a believer would appear to be so iffy and subject to change at any perceived wrong one might do or even think. Unhealthy churches are good at instilling this thought. But is this…

Unhealthy Groups

I have been part of an “unhealthy group”. There’s really no need to name one… there are healthy and unhealthy churches under most-if not all-denominational banners. What makes a church group-or any other group for that matter-unhealthy? There are lists published by people…

Responding in Love

How do you respond in love to someone who repeatedly says hurtful things? Who is rude without realizing it? Who puts others down or repeatedly ‘corrects’ them in front of a group? And what do you do when the person does this to…

God’s Love, My Trust

…It’s not a matter of whether I love God, but of whether I know he loves me, and what my understanding of that love is. If you love me, let go of the hurt. But justice… No, let go. Do you not know…

Twisted Word Meanings: Shorn

Copyright Cary Wolinsky

One indicator of an unhealthy church is when the meanings of words are changed. By doing this, what they teach appears on the surface to be backed by scripture. However, when one discovers that the twisted meaning is not the same as was…